You seem better this time, he said I eat too fast and watch him his perpetual smile and contrived optimism My seeming is a relief to him a quart of energy drains from my soul I smile and say, Yes. I am fine.
I have so been the one seeming, desperate for help but acquiescing to the one who wants me to be fine - or at least seeming better. THe tragedy of course is that being refused the understanding one needs makes one less likely to be vulnerable in the future and, of course, even more likely to need the tenderness. Letting others off the hook - allowing them to be content with how we seem - is just the beginning of a vicious circle.
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Sadly, I find, seeming is a relief to a lot of people. The key is to find and stick with the ones who accept us for how and who we are.
I have so been the one seeming, desperate for help but acquiescing to the one who wants me to be fine - or at least seeming better. THe tragedy of course is that being refused the understanding one needs makes one less likely to be vulnerable in the future and, of course, even more likely to need the tenderness. Letting others off the hook - allowing them to be content with how we seem - is just the beginning of a vicious circle.
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